"Trauma" seems to be a buzzword in our society and can be commonly overused. However, trauma is generally thought of to be a reaction to a threat of death, or serious injury to self or another person. While this is true and those types of situations occur frequently and have a serious impact on the quality of life of the person experiencing the trauma, the same effects can occur in people experiencing less severe or and more chronic situations.
Trauma survivors so often feel that they have to deal with their experiences on their own and manage the pain they are experiencing without help because the events happened in the past and they are supposed to "get over it." This may be helpful with some events in life, but not trauma.
Here is an example of how connected our brains are to the world around us... Have you ever smelled a vanilla candle burning and instantly envisioned your grandma's sugar cookies baking in the oven and remembered everything about a certain day or time with your grandma? Hopefully that is a very positive, warm memory; but think for a minute what that would be like if it was not a warm memory, but instead was filled with fear, shame, insecurity, and hopelessness. That is how easily people can be triggered to relive horrific events from the past.
Trauma is treatable with therapy and support. People with extensive and complex trauma histories do recover and become stronger and more resilient than they were in the past. We would love to help you on that journey to recovering from past events.